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There has been a lot of talk about the hustle mindset in relation to small business owners or work at home moms. After reading an article on that topic, I thought it could also apply to how the hustle mindset relates to kids.
First off, let’s discuss the definition of “hustle”.
Hustle as a verb means to hurry or force someone to move hurriedly or even to obtain by forceful action or persuasion. [As a verb, the word hustle doesn’t bother me at all. Let’s face it, it isn’t like we haven’t told our kids to “hustle” when they are moving slowly.]
As a noun, hustle is defined as busy movement and activity or to fraud or swindle.
Now, I personally have always HATED this word when used in business. I live in Las Vegas and when I think of the word “hustle” I think of swindle – just how I am wired.
I realize the intent was to “work hard”; however, at what cost? It just always felt shady.
Now you might be wondering how the Hustle Mindset relates to kids… Well, let me tell you!
Kids today are being asked to constantly do more. Do more homework (or none at all depending on where you live – which is a totally different problem), do more sports, be in more activities, etc. They are expected to do it all and the parents are expected to enroll them in everything and drive them all over.
Do you think that might lead to just a tiny bit of stress???? As a mom of two teens and a former teacher, let me tell you that there is an increase in the amount of childhood anxiety! My own 13 daughter has issues with anxiety and panic attacks and she currently has zero activities outside of school (by choice).
Afterschool activities are awesome, in moderation. How many kids do you know that are enrolled in 2-3? I personally think that is a little excessive. Kids need downtime, just like adults do. If a teen is involved with 2-3 extracurricular activities, plus has homework, when do they have time to do the homework or hang out with friends, or just chill?
Is it OK to just let my kid do one activity or even dare I say no activities?
Here’s why. If your child is not passionate about what they are doing, then it isn’t helping them grow. It is only wasting your time, their time, and your money. (Let’s be real, their activities are not cheap!!) Maybe what they are passionate about isn’t something you can enroll them in where you live.
Have them read books on it or both of you do some research and explore their interests. We are expecting our kids to have it all figured out on what they like and what they don’t and most adults still have no idea. I think that is just a smidge unfair.
My daughter wants to learn Japenese and her middle school doesn’t offer it, neither will her high school. My solution, find something at our local library or look for an app that she can learn from.
Other after-school activities have become more of a chore than a passion for her. She enjoyed the social aspect but then lost interest in why she was there. This happened with swimming, Girl Scouts, and musical theater.
Try New Things!!!
I am always happy that she wants to try and test out her interests. She is rather adventurous and if it is within my power, I make it happen so that she doesn’t lose that “it’s OK to try something” mindset.
Yes, I know college applications want kids to be well rounded; however, at what cost? I am OK with my kid going to a technical school to get his freshman and sophomore classes out of the way and then transferring to a university if that’s what it takes. I know this might not be a popular opinion, but I feel it is worth discussing.
Will the hustle mindset cause our children to be too burnt out by the time they graduate college? Will our kids be so overmedicated due to being taught they must hustle or they aren’t good enough? To what end?
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